Talk To People just Like You
Talk To People just Like You
Wouldn’t it be great if everyone you spoke to was just like you?
They have the same values, beliefs and have been through the same experiences that you have.
How much easier would it be to guide this person on the right path to a better life?
How much easier would it be to help this person get started in business?
You wouldn’t have to bend their mind to your way of thinking.
You wouldn’t spend hours, days, weeks, months chasing people who are nothing like you, but yet still trying to convince them that what you have to offer is perfect for them.
Wouldn’t it be just great to talk to people just like you?
A Brief Story About Love, Pain And Heartbreak
My first heartbreak (some 12 years ago) felt like my entire world had collapsed. We had spent the best part of two solid years together in which we had a great time. There were some lows, but as far as relationships goes there were much more highs.
Two years on and my bliss bubble of love came crashing to a tragic end.
I was always the sort of person who kept my feeling to myself so I didn’t let anyone know how much I was hurting.
Two weeks after we broke up. I get news that she is now with another guy!
The pain was unbearable. (You know the kinda pain I mean).
By not being the kind of guy who openly spoke about his feelings I had alienated myself from my nearest and dearest. I had no one to turn to for comfort, support or strength.
I submerged myself into music as a DJ. I said yes to every opportunity going, including all the ones which were bad for me!
It wasn’t till may years later that I came to terms with the break up. But not before the pain had destroyed many other possible great relationships and had thrown my life into a spin which I am only now really getting out of.
By chance I came across a young friend of mine recently who was usually full of beans and bursting with energy. On this day however, he was low, very low. His face painted the picture of man with nothing left to give.
Hesitantly I asked if he was ok. He tried to cover up that he wasn’t at first, but it was all to obvious that there was something terribly wrong with him.
Finally he went onto explain that he had just split up with his girlfriend of two years, his first real love. And that she had already moved onto the next guy, only 2 weeks later.
He always kept himself to himself and didn’t have anyone to talk to about it. He just felt empty, like nothing mattered.
Suddenly I was back in 1998 and I could remember exactly what that pain felt like. And how by not being able to talk about it changed the following years of my life and not for the better.
I could relate to exactly what he was going through. I knew what was going to happen next. I knew exactly how he was feeling.
Here was someone who I could talk to, help, support and guide.
He is just like how I was.
I took on the role. I supported him through it all and assured him that things will and do only get better.
6 months later, his pain has recessed to its emotional hiding place and from what I understand he now has a selection of good relationship options to chose from.
He is back to being the bright and sparky person that he always was and with guidance from me he has opened up more with his family and friends. He has let them in so that they to can support and guide him and he wouldn’t feel alone again.
It is a great feeling to know that you can help someone out in this way.
This was only possible because I was talking to someone just like me. Our stories were similar and I was best placed to show him what not to do and offer alternatives of what he could and should do.
You Should Be Doing This In Your Business
Find people who are just like you!
Talking to them will be so much easier. You will have your own experiences (good and bad) to draw from and use.
If you are in MLM and you are only targeting people in MLMs then you could be missing out on a lot of people who are more suited to who you are.
One example.
I have gone as far as I could go with my career. I have hit the ceiling of my employment. So I was frustrated with the fact that there was nowhere else for me to move to within my industry.
Am I the only person in employment who feels this way?
MOST DEFINITELY NOT.
Could I help others who have also hit the ceiling in their careers and are now feeling frustrated with their employment?
YES, OF COURSE I CAN.
Are these people currently in MLM or internet marketing?
THEY DON’T HAVE TO BE. I can still help them.
I target these people. I know I can relate to what they are going through. I know I can support and guide onto a better way of life. I can offer them alternatives that work.
There is life outside of MLM or internet marketing. People who are just like you, looking, searching for someone just like them to show them the way.
Go Find Them. Grow Your Business
Chat Soon
Dwayne
Lets Get Down To Business. If you can relate to my story then we would be a great fit in business.
I want to work with you and no doubt you have been looking for someone like me to work with.
All you need to do is fill out the short application form via this link and we can get down to business
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I would like to add that you don’t know if someone is ready to do something different in their lives unless you ask! I have found that you can’t assume anything. Someone could be looking to solve a problem and you may have the solution.
Hey Greg
Thanks for adding that valuable point. Never assume, always ask. Set up your
funnel to qualify as many of the right people as possible.
Hi Dwayne,
This is solid advice for those of us in the world of prospecting. We think “target marketing” with our businesses, not realizing we can hit targets in our personal and professional lives.
It’s why I spend a good deal of time on personal development forums, where I can chat with like-minded people and share our experiences.
Similar deal with a painful break-up over here, I too was the stoic type and in my case suffered through a deep depression until I learned how to release the feelings.
Ryan Biddulph
Dwayne, this is an awesome post!
I love the way you opened up and shared a personal experience to really drive home your point. You’re absolutely right, we connect better with people who are like us.
I’m going to take a look around and add your message to the way I’m connecting. I think this came at a really great time, since I’m moving back to America in a couple weeks. I’m looking forward to making lots of new connections and this could be really interesting …
Thanks Dwayne!
Susanna
Opening up helps to get a message across more
Moving back to the US. Interesting times ahead for you.
Hey Ryan
It was only recently my eyes were opened to who the real targets should be. Makes a whole heap of sense once you start applying it.
Heartbreak is hard. But also a powerful lesson
Very interesting message, Dwayne. Seeking out the like is a great way to build a strong and successful business, no doubt about it.
Glad you were able to use your personal experience to help your friend; I am sure he felt blessed to have your support.
Thanks for being willing to share your story with us.
Ana Hoffman
Thanks Ana
When I woke up to this piece of info, my business changed for the better.
Twitter: growwithstacy
August 24, 2010 at 17:40
This is a great point, Dwayne. Your story is very poignant and brings the point home right on target.
That is is a major reason that I decided to have the primary niche of my blog Personal Development. Yes, I am involved in MLM but I still consider myself a newbie in that field and I don’t have too much to offer yet and I am definitely in the stage of learning, learning, learning.
Personal Development has been a passion of mine for a long time and though I will always be learning and growing I have a lot to offer people.
Thanks for another highly valuable post!
Hey Stacy
Thanks.
You have started out on the right foot. Sharing what you like and what you
are good at. Attracting like minded people to you, enabling you to have a
better more productive conversation with them. Simple and effective.
Hi Dwayne,
I enjoyed reading your story. What you say is true which is why we need to reveal who we are so that others have a chance to be attracted to us too. People are looking for real people with whom to connect. Great post Dwayne.
~Marcus
Twitter: prfuller
August 25, 2010 at 12:06
Hello Dwayne
I always tell people, if you are struggling finding your niche, just go look in the mirror and tell your story.
I enjoy your reading your post Dwayne, great story.
Peter
Hey Marcus
Thank you.
The more I open up to people, the more people I attract to me who have
walked similar paths.
Its simple and makes so much sense.
Chat soon
Great advice Peter.
We ourselves have a lot more to offer than we give ourselves credit for!
Hey Dwayne,
Great story and I like how you have tied it with network marketing.
It’s so amazing how things fall into place when we attract and connect with the right people.
Thanks for sharing your insights.
All the best,
Mavis Nong
Hey Mavis. No problem. Thanks for passing by
Hey Dwayne,
Thanks for the read my friend. That’s quite a hard hitting story, and one that I hope most people don’t have to go through. (I know people who have) Being a comforting “mentor” to another person was a good positive you could take out of that mess.
What you’re communicating here is very important, because in our industry, relationships are everything. They’re created by our ability to relate to people first. People will only join you because they know you, like you and trust you.
Take care,
Wayne